Self-care. We hear this phrase a lot but what does it actually mean? I had never heard of self-care until after college when I started working my 9-5. Many of you know that I worked doing marketing, fundraising and community education at a local Domestic Violence (DV) and Sexual Assault (SA) center in Florida. You hear some really tough stories when you work at DV and SA shelter. The advocates who work there are literally the heart and soul of the organization. So, practicing self-care was something we did as a staff and were encouraged to practice outside of work.
In my opinion self-care has no one definition. Everyone has their own definition of self-care. Some people like run others like cook. Self-care is doing what makes your heart and soul happy! Today I am going to share some of my favorite self-care tips and how they help make me a better businesswoman, wife, sister, daughter, and friend.
Talk with a friend – I love my friends and family, so I make sure I spend time talking with at least one person outside of my house a day. I typically Facetime my mom, sister, and nephew pretty much every day. I do this because I miss them but also it makes me feel connected to my family. I love being able to watch my nephew grow up and enjoy catching up with my mom and sister. I also video chat my best friend, Rosanna, once a week. This girl has been my best friend since the 4th grade so for almost 20 years (that is crazy). We have not lived in the same place since we were 13 years old, but we have managed to stay in touch all these years. Talking with her always brightens my day! I also try and make sure I spend time with my friends who live nearby so going for walks or chatting over coffee is something I try to do at least once a week.
Read – Since leaving my 9-5 I have rediscovered the joy of reading a good book. I read for at least 30 minutes every day. Sometimes I even enjoy a nice class of wine with my book. I am currently reading several different books, but I am really enjoying “The Faith of Dolly Parton” by Dudley Delffs. For those of you who don’t’ know I am a hug Dolly Parton fan. Reading allows me to escape the world for a little bit. It allows me not to stress about to do lists or projects that I am working on. I always feel refreshed after reading which helps me to be creative.
Paint by number – A month ago I decided I wanted to do something creative that was out of my comfort zone. I wish I had the talent to paint so I thought why not try a paint by number. If you go on Amazon, they have a ton to choose from. I picked out a beautiful sunflower. Sunflowers are my favorite flowers. They were in my bouquet when I got married so when I look at them, I am reminded of that special day. When my paint by number came in the mail, I was so excited. As you can see in the picture the numbers are super tiny and there are a lot of them. I am actually still working on it! Now that that the weather is warming up, I plan on sitting outside to do this self-care activity. I usually turn on some music and just start painting. The first time I did this I ended up working on it for 2 hours. I could not believe that much time had passed! This activity allows me turn off my brain and not think about what is bothering me and really helps me to unwind after a long day or week.
Prayer and Journaling – I have talked about these two before, but I feel like it is important to share again. Spending 20 minutes a day doing both of these things has really helped with my anxiety. This last year has been tough between a pandemic, moving and getting diagnosed with PCOS. When I do not spend time praying or journaling, I find that my thoughts tend to wander to and my I lose focus which then makes for an unproductive workday. When I am able to work through those thoughts by writing or talking with God, I feel a lot happier and more focused.
These are my some my favorite self-care tips that I practice daily or weekly. Self-care is something that is always changing for me and I think it will always change depending on what is going on in our lives. So, this weekend I want to challenge you to do one thing for yourself and see how you feel!
Take care friends!